Thursday, February 4, 2010

mothering by me

Almost everyone I meet seems to have their own opinion of what you should and should not do as a parent. Typically when someone tries to tell me how I should be doing something, I simply smile, nod and quietly say thank you as I drastically roll my eyes in my head.

I definitely will be the first one to ask for advice if I am totally lost on how to handle something (this is where my veteran mom bestie Regina comes in), although I can't help but chuckle to myself when someone tries to read me a parenting how-to line pulled out of a book that was first written over 20 years ago.

Here's a run down of things I do as a mom that Dr. Phil probably wouldn't approve of:

I let my kids sleep in my bed - I don't care how many people tell me this is a bad habit. My little snuggle bunnies (yes I just used "snuggle bunnies" in a sentence) are only little once, and I remember always being scared at night when I was a kid (in fact, I was straight up TERRIFIED of the dark). I don't care that my kid needs me to fall asleep. In fact, I think it's endearing.

I let my toddler watch TV - not like a crazy amount or anything, but hey, if it's going to help me cook dinner or get some laundry done I am all about some Yo Gabba Gabba dancy dance time.

I tell my kids how it is - If Jonas asks me about something I tell him exactly what and how it will he learn otherwise? I had a friend over the other day who was appalled that Jonas said butt and boobies. What am I supposed to tell him Dylan is eating from and where his poop comes from?! I have also seen that another power mom I know, Stephanie, is amazing at this and I commend/admire her for it!

I let my toddler eat sugary cereal (and other various candy every so often) - I know this drives my mother in law nuts (sorry mom!), but how hypocritical would I be if I told him he couldn't have some as I shove my beloved fruit loops down my throat? Plus, m&m's work wonders for potty training.

I pick my kids up as soon as they cry - I don't care how many people tell me I shouldn't do this and that it spoils them (how can a child be spoiled with love!). As soon as a little whimper comes out of my kids mouth my heart tears right in 2! I never let my kids cry themselves to sleep, I don't put the baby down for a second when he's fussing, and I never just let them sit there and cry it out.

The list goes on, but you get the picture. I'm not saying the way I do it is best, but all I know is that the way I mommy is the way for me!

1 comment:

  1. Thanks for the shout-out, lady. I'm sure you're doing just fine. My usual response to people telling me I am doing things "incorrectly" is simply that my mom did it this way and I turned out just fine.
    It's pretty much true. Besides, YOU're the one who has to live with your kids. And if you can handle it...then eff anyone who doesn't like the way they're growing up.

    Luv your pickledness.